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Guys just start out at a natural disadvantage in dating and sex. As young men, we focus on being strong providers and enjoying ourselves, playing football and 'reading' Penthouse from time to time. Our sexual education is mostly comprised of a few bad porno movies, or our embarrassed father trying to explain the birds and the bees. (My dad's attempt was pretty awful.) Women get busy as soon as they discovered that Ken dolls were not anatomically correct, and they learn how to collaborate with other women about the drama of their relationships for enjoyment.
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It’s also about delivering the message that you are powerful in other subtle ways, ranging from powerful in intelligence, to powerful in emotional control, to the way you physically present yourself and the way you dress. The keyword is SUBTLETY. The more you make a woman have to ENGAGE herself in figuring you out and wanting to figure you out, the better. Being direct is too easy and too boring and is simply bypassed by her emotional radar.
Think for a second about the coolest heroes in movies. Imagine James Bond even if he wasn’t rich or played by a movie star. Think about the guy, the stories he has to tell, the knowledge he has of human character, of the world, of politics, of culture, of languages, and how he never seems to show off about it. It’s just who he is. Think about how he might CONVEY all that to a woman WITHOUT even TELLING her he knows all that stuff. For example, let’s say a woman met the guy, and asked him what he did, and he answered “oh a little of this and a little of that” with a slight smirk on his confident face as he then casually turned from her and ordered himself a martini. He might then slowly turn back and say “and yourself…”. Trust me, this says a LOT about a guy, and it would be attractive even if he didn’t have all the gadgets looks and money. Notice how in my example he didn’t even ANSWER the question, yet he wasn’t rude, yet DEFINITELY conveyed he was THE MAN. By not answering he created an air of mystery while not coming across as a lame prick. And imagine he ordered an exotic drink that most guys have no idea what it even is. And think about the voice tone he probably used- it was relaxed and natural and at ease. A hint of playfulness in his voice. Totally in control without being controlling. I hope this is giving you a glimpse into who THE MAN is. How do you think he might CONTINUE this interaction to take it to the NEXT LEVEL? Do you think this guy is obsessing over getting phone numbers or emails? Do you think he is even giving off the VIBE that he wants her NUMBER and is going to go home so happy that he has her NUMBER? Do you think SHE is thinking he will be so ecstatic that he has her number? Or might this entire interaction quickly lead to MORE than a “number”? |
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